The felt sense that you are worthy, capable, and "enough" — as you are, not only when you perform.

Does this sound familiar?

Praise slides off; criticism sticks for days.

You hold yourself to standards you'd never hold anyone else to.

Rest has to be earned, and it rarely feels earned.

Some part of you is still waiting to be "found out."

This isn't a flaw in you.

It's a need — one every human has — that may not have been fully met. What hurt you wasn't only about

what happened. It was about what was missing. And the way you've learned to cope makes sense.

Three questions worth asking:

• Whose voice is that critic, really?

• What did you need to hear, as a kid, that you didn't?

• Why does no amount of achievement seem to be enough?

These are exactly the questions Missing Pieces walks you through — where this need went unmet, what you

were actually looking for, and what you can do to meet it now.

Where to go next:

The core-needs signature series — Missing Pieces (the past), Bad Blood (the present), and Good Company (the future). Three little books with a lotta power.

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